Guest Post, Ashley Caveda: Me After Me Before You

Cover of Me Before YouUpon finishing Jojo Moyes’ popular novel Me Before You, I was heartbroken. But it wasn’t “a heartbreaker in the best sense” as promised by the New York Daily News. It was the kind that left me feeling helpless and sick—literally, like I might throw up, or punch someone.

A friend loaned me a copy, mentioning that the book dealt with disability and love. I forgot about it for a couple of weeks, until I saw a preview for the movie, released this month. The story features a young woman named Louisa Clark, whom the back cover describes as “an ordinary girl living an exceedingly ordinary life.” Louisa finds work as a caretaker for Will Traynor, a man who becomes a quadriplegic after an accident. From the preview, the two appear to fall in love, and yet Will also seems to be contemplating assisted suicide.

As a quadriplegic myself, paralyzed from the chest down since the age of 6, I value writing that subverts common disability stereotypes. I willed this book not to portray a spinal cord injury as a fate worse than death.

“Please,” I prayed, “Not another Million Dollar Baby.”

And so I read. In the novel, after being sexually assaulted at the age of 20, Louisa barely ventures beyond her hometown. Will, a rich, handsome businessman, spent his life prior to the accident engaging in extreme sports, traveling the world, and bedding beautiful, leggy blondes.

While getting to know Will, Louisa learns that he plans to commit suicide at the end of six months. She and his family are determined to prevent this. Louisa makes it her mission to show Will how beautiful and good life can still be. They attend concerts, go on picnics, visit art exhibits, and even take a dream vacation together. Through these excursions, Louisa and Will eventually fall in love.

During their last night at a beach resort, Louisa tells Will she wants to spend her life with him. But he rejects her proposal; he doesn’t want to be a burden to her and he hates living with his disability. He says,

You don’t know me, not really. You never saw me before this thing. I loved my life, Clark. Really loved it … I led a big life … I am not designed to exist in this thing—and yet for all intents and purposes it is now the thing that defines me. It is the only thing that defines me. (325)

These words, written by an able-bodied woman, are weightier in the mouth of a disabled (albeit fictional) man. Smoke and mirrors perhaps, but the illusion is effective enough for the book to be a New York Times Best Seller for 76 straight weeks and counting.

In the end, Will goes through with his suicide at a clinic in Switzerland, freeing everyone around him, including himself, from the burden of his disabled flesh. And although they are unhappy, Louisa and Will’s family come to respect his choice. In fact, he convinces them that it is the only choice he has been permitted to make for himself since his accident. As a final act of love, he leaves his fortune to Louisa. The book closes with her sitting outside of a café in Paris, finally inspired to live her life to the fullest.

Ultimately, Moyes uses Will’s suicide to transform him into a romantic hero and the able-bodied masses call it beautiful.

Numerous essays and blogs criticizing this portrayal of disability in Me Before You already exist (including this especially comprehensive critique), but there are two important points I would like to make.

First, all of the characters who try to convince Will to live make the argument that life can be good in spite of his disability; I would contend that my life is often good because of my disability. Second, this book argues that Will lived a big life and simply can’t accept a smaller one; I would contend that some of the biggest things that life has to offer at first appear to be small. These apparent blind spots on Moyes’ part inhibit her from crafting a more nuanced look at disability.

While most of the novel is from Louisa’s point of view, multiple characters receive their own chapter-long perspective shifts, including Will’s mother; his father; his medical caregiver, Nathan; and Louisa’s sister. Notably absent from this list, however, is Will himself. Moyes never bothers to put the reader inside of Will’s mind, instead largely shaping him through the interior thoughts and opinions of the non-disabled people around him. This, to me, is a grievous defect.

Therefore, to remedy this and to explore the aforementioned blind spots, I wrote my own brief, alternate ending to Moyes’ novel from Will’s point of view.

NOTE: This alternate ending takes place during Louisa and Will’s final night at the beach resort after Louisa confesses her feelings to Will and he rejects her, announcing that he is still planning on going forward with his suicide.


“I wish I’d never met you.”

Those were the last words Louisa said as she stumbled away from me on the beach. Drunken strangers found Nathan and brought him to me, and he helped me to bed. He cleaned me; he changed me; he tucked me in, as though I were an infant. The only thing our routine lacked was a bedtime story. And then he went to his room.

Now, propped up on my right side where he left me, I lay still (what else was I going to do?) and thought. Thinking was pretty much the only thing I could do by myself these days.

The storms from the previous night left a breeze in their wake and I could feel the cool air through the crack in the balcony doors. My nose itched.

Bested again, I thought. You’ve won this time, Itch.

My eyes were heavy, but I fought sleep. What was it she said to me that night at the wedding? That I never would have noticed her if I weren’t disabled? She called herself “one of the invisibles.” And she was right. I never would have seen her, in my other life. We never would have met. Louisa was only made visible to me after—no, not after, because of—my accident.

These seemed to be two incongruous concepts. On one hand, there was the life I lost, filled to the brim with ocean vistas, European cobblestone, and steep mountainsides that left my whole body screaming for rest and oxygen, while still craving more exertion. In those moments, I knew every single cell was alive and active. On the other hand, there was Louisa. Louisa in her red dress at the concert. Louisa at the wedding, her arms draped around my neck, her fingers pressed into my skin as I spun us around and around on the dance floor, her perfume-like joy spinning along with us. There was the man who could walk; there was the man who loved Louisa. These two Wills could never occupy the same universe.

On the beach, I could still hear the other hotel guests carousing. A woman’s high-pitched laughter at some inaudible joke. The crackle of distant fireworks. The shrieks they provoked. I wasn’t sure if I could actually taste a hint of acrid smoke in the air, or if it were just my imagination—my mind’s nose, if that were even a thing—but the effect was convincing enough.

Louisa’s life was so small compared to my old life. She hadn’t done a fraction of the things I’d done. While I was staking my claim at the top of Mount Kilimanjaro, the roof of Africa, she laid claim to nothing more than a closet-sized bedroom in her parents’ home and a job serving tourists at a second-rate café. It was my life’s purpose to see, to do, to conquer. And I conquered everything.

“Where there’s Will,” my friends used to joke, “There’s a way.”

Six months, I’d promised my mother after my failed suicide attempt. In that time, Louisa and my family tried to fill my days with excitement and action—a poor man’s facsimile of the life I once led. Although they were simply trying to be kind, pretending my life could be what it used to be was almost more maddening than anything else. I needed them to acknowledge that although some form of my body survived, Will Traynor was dead and would never be coming back. Trying to recreate my old life would never work.

And yet, there was Louisa.

I pictured her now on her side, asleep in her bed, knees pulled up high, clutching a pillow in her arms. Perhaps she cried herself to sleep after running from the beach to her room. Perhaps she was still awake, clenching and unclenching her hands, cursing the day we met. The thought pained me.

Louisa, the once-invisible-now-visible girl, came to love me only if I crossed that rainy street at the exact right moment two years ago.

And if Louisa herself were once invisible to me, were there other things invisible to me as well? Perhaps there was a whole host of unseen things that might now be seen. Perhaps I was so determined never to let the world pass me by that I passed the world by.

Louisa, with her crazy shoes and her black-and-yellow striped tights, lost to me if not for the accident. Entirely too small for me to see.

When did I decide that small was inherently less? I wondered.

I must have been young. Even as a child, my parents’ wealth afforded me such extravagant possibilities—winter vacations skiing in the Alps, weekly equestrian lessons. I never bothered with anything that seemed ordinary.

I spent so much time criticizing Louisa over the past six months for all of the things she was afraid to do, jealous that she could still live the big life I lost—if she would only seize it. But was I guilty too? Was I afraid to live an ordinary life?

The first time she shaved my face clean, her fingertips grazed my skin, adjusted the fold in my collar. She barely touched me while she worked. At the time, this was just more evidence of my own physical failings. I couldn’t even shave my beard without help. But there was a measured way she wiped my face when she was done, with the same care one might reserve for handling something precious. Would I have ever let a woman touch me like that if I weren’t disabled? Did I invest in obvious thrills at the expense of humbler joys—the ordinary that only through experience might reveal itself to be extraordinary, just like Louisa herself? My wealth and privilege allowed me to see everything I might ever want to see—except what was right in front of me.

Alone, in that dark hotel room, the noise from the beach finally quieting, I questioned for the first time whether all dependence should be counted as loss. Or was the breaking that took place more like a seed that must shatter completely before new life can emerge?

As this thought came over me, the faint rhythmic ticking of a leaky faucet kept pace with my pulse. For two years, I resented every single heartbeat. But now, there were entire days I didn’t feel like dying.

If the old me could scale a 90° peak, couldn’t I find a way to continue just a bit further? Would my own life be the one summit I never reached?

Louisa, my visible girl. What other things have I missed?

I bandied on for so long about how this was my choice to make. But the thing about having a choice is that you can also make the wrong one.

The somber blues of the night would soon be giving way to subtler tones. And those subtler shades would soon be giving way to sunlight that would break through the thinly veiled windows. When that happened, Nathan would come and dress me, and help me into my wheelchair, and I would press my good hand forward on the motor’s control and roll myself over the dense hotel carpet until I reached the lobby. Louisa would be waiting for me, unlikely to make eye contact, but my own eyes would stay on her. They would follow her even as she avoided mine.

How odd that only through the loss of one ability did I gain a new type of sight.

I couldn’t promise her forever. I couldn’t promise I wouldn’t choose to end my life before sickness or time stepped in. But I could give her at least six more months. Not to appease her, like I did for my parents, but because it was my choice to make.

These next six months, I wouldn’t live a shadow of the life I once had, trying and failing to revive the past. But perhaps there was new life hidden inside the smaller-seeming things if I were willing to look for it, and perhaps those six months would give way to six more, and those six to another, until they kept expanding and growing and my life would be big again and I wouldn’t need to keep count anymore.

After all, I was Will. Maybe I would find a way.

Ashley Caveda
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9 thoughts on “Guest Post, Ashley Caveda: Me After Me Before You

  • June 5, 2016 at 1:41 pm

    Someone who enjoyed the book commented on Facebook that something missing from my commentary and alternate ending was how the huge wealth disparity between Louisa and Will affected them. She said that without wealth Louisa couldn’t have had Will’s life of mountain climbing, etc. because she was stuck working in a diner. So, I wanted to say a tiny bit more about this particular issue. For me, the way wealth is used in this book is actually wrapped up in the troubling portrayal of disability. This is true for many reasons, but I’ll share two of them.

    First, by being as wealthy as he is, Will has a freedom in his life not available to the average person, both before and after his accident. And although he still has the means to do most anything he wants to do, travel the world, sit outside of a cafe in Paris with a woman who loves him, partake in extreme sports designed specifically for people with disabilities, Moyes portrays Will’s disability as a fate worse than death. Indeed, although Will still has access to opportunities only dreamed of by most people thanks to his money, he quite literally would rather die than continue to access them with a differently functioning body. To him, his life, once big, is made small by disability.

    Second, by leaving his money to Louisa, Will inspires Louisa to live her life to the fullest, which is a common trope in works about disability–the disabled person acts as a catalyst for positive change in an able-bodied character’s life, suggesting that Louisa is able to access a grandness and goodness in this world no longer available to him because of his wheelchair. And the book takes this even one step further, going so far as to say that Will’s suicide literally grants Louisa, as well as Will’s father, the freedom to live that life, rather than their being tied down to his medical treatments and any other requirement of his disability. During the chapter that is told from Will’s father’s perspective, it actually says, “Only on my son’s death would I be free to live the life of my choosing,” (293). Despite their wealth and relative opportunity, it is only through Will’s choice to end his life that his family (and now Louisa) are finally free to pursue their lives to the fullest. This transforms Will’s suicide into a heroic, even romantic act. Therefore, the book suggests that only with wealth can life be big, and only without a disability can this big life be truly enjoyed.

    And although my friends’ and family’s lives might be both financially and physically easier if I chose to kill myself, I have to believe that the metrics for a full and successful life are much more complex than simply wealth plus able-bodied-ness.

    • June 8, 2016 at 2:20 am

      Thank you Ashley for posting this alternate ending. Absolutely beautiful. I was hoping they would make an alternate ending for the dvd…
      Your comments are so true, very thought provoking

  • September 6, 2016 at 11:52 am

    This is the ending I wished the book had. Like many I felt sick to my stomach and beyond heartbroken at the original ending and HAD to find an ending that made me happy. This was it. Thank you

  • August 26, 2017 at 3:57 am

    Wow this is beautiful. Thank you for putting your finger on everything that was so unsettling about this book.
    I know you wrote this some time ago, but I’ve only just read the book and came across this in a desperate internet search, looking to make sense of what I’ve just read.

    I think it was his conversation with Lou which also made me so upset. It was just heartbreaking to see he defined his entire life by all these extreme activities. I get the difficutly of everyday living getting him depressed. But this?
    Really? That’s all that his life was about before?

    I also spent the whole book crying out for someone to help Will find some genuine purpose in life. Concerts and picnics and beaches are fine, but they don’t populate a whole life.

    There’s only a brief mention of why Will never goes back to his career. There’s never any talk of him trying to find a new career or new intellectual pursuits. He constantly talks about Lou finding a purpose, going to university, but I would have loved to see Will go back to studying, for example, finding an outlet for his intellect and becoming an expert on some random academic subject! And realising that it’s a lot more fulfilling than being a city banker and, as you so eloquently put it, that it was only made possible by his disability.

    Will responds so well to people when he does engage with them – Louisa’s parents, Mary at the wedding, Nathan. And while I understand he doesn’t want to know his old friends, making new and ultimately better friends might also have helped him see the way his life had changed for the better.

    Sorry for the rant. And thanks again.

  • February 6, 2021 at 5:13 pm

    Thank you so much for taking the time to write this alternate ending and also your follow-up comment. I’ve been spending a good amount of time today trying to process the feelings this book brought up. Having an experience in which you suddenly lose your previous level of mobility is new for me. I had hoped this book might be helpful. Turns out it was the comments and articles about it from the community of individuals who live full lives despite or because of their disability that were helpful. I feel less alone and a little more at peace.

    • February 7, 2021 at 1:49 pm

      Hi Marie! I am glad that even when the book wasn’t necessarily the most helpful for you, that you were able to find that peace from others and this shared experience. I hope communities like this can help you never feel alone.

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